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The Borough, SE1

I spent four days in the smoke the week before last.

I rarely get to spend that much time in the City these days, but I have in recent times taken to staying just sarf of the river and this time I decided on a small hotel near Borough Market and I was shocked by how much that area had changed.

Borough Market of course has been there for ever, 1014 apparently, but in recent years it has been polished like a diamond. There was a real aura to it, and the market is bordered by a whole range of cool cafes and restaurants.
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Happy New Year

Tonight, 3 years ago Charlton’s Official Site burst into life announcing that the club had come off the life support machine and been bought by Michael Slater and Tony Jimenez, with a clandestine third party rumoured to be sat behind the scenes.

24 months later, no one can be surprised at the shroud of confusion that exists over another proposed takeover. Stories are circling that Roland Duchâtelet has pulled out of a £14m deal, whilst the official word is that negotiations continue. There may also be other suitors sitting in the wings watching the currents owner’s negotiating power getting weaker by the day.
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Flying home for Christmas

We’re flying home tonight for Christmas. This year we have cut back on our tour around people’s houses as I don’t think us and our copious suitcases are always as welcome as we think! Whilst friends are going back to work, there we are showing up on the doorstep still spouting Christmas guff and waggling wine and cakes in people’s faces. It’s a difficult balance when you are always the visitor and never the host.
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Turkey stuffing

Happy Thanksgiving to all of my American readers and buddies who will spend today throwing the Buds back and eating copious amount of deep-fried turkey, all while sat on their butts watching sport all day long on the television. And some people say they are stupid!

I became quite enamoured by this little pre-Christmas ritual when I lived in the States and have in the past couple of years followed suit and taken the time off from work to mostly drink, eat and watch telly! When I was a kid, harvest festival was all about giving, but hey, I’ll go with the Land of the Free’s definition.
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Away days

Saturday was a cracking reminder of what following the Addicks away from home can be like. I know it’s not always a pleasant experience, trust me I have watched them in many corners of the country and have returned home hours, sometimes a day, later wondering why I bothered.

But you do, as 855 of us did on Saturday. Leaving home early from wherever that may be, full of hope and no or little expectation, but equally willing to give the team every ounce of support because we know that it matters.
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10 years ago

A decade ago today I flew from Heathrow Airport to Chicago with two suitcases, a rucksack stuffed with some photos, a work visa and an address of an apartment building.

I had always wanted to experience living and working abroad, and on that Tuesday 10 years ago, I was finally going to realise my ambitions. Mind you if I was told before boarding that plane that I would still be away 10 years later, I wouldn’t have got on, no chance. That was certainly not in my plans.

I wrote a diary those first few months, and I re-read back the first week recently. It was a mixture of sadness, apprehension and wide-eyed excitement.
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From peaks to troughs

There are many higher places to travel to than Banff, but believe me it feels very close to heaven here. The mountains that surround Banff on all sides are breathtaking with dark evergreen trees layering them like a blanket. It is a beautiful little place, one of the most picturesque I have seen in North America.
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Beach party

The sun has appeared behind dark clouds and the heavy rain which soaked us all morning has disappeared, which is timely because we are heading out to the beach to drink, eat, laugh, build sandcastles and swim in clear seas.

Me, my other half, my son and my daughter are off out to meet friends and their kids for a birthday party, someone special. Me.

London waiting

I’m leaving for London Wednesday night for a couple days of work and then some family weekend time wrapped up with a few beers with some mates on Sunday evening in Bexley Village.

Not for the first time I have just calculated that I will be away for 4 nights and will sleep in 4 different beds, 5 in 5 if you include the overnight plane journey. Sadly, although that sounds very titillating, it, er, won’t be.
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May 24th

Today, May 24th used to be a holiday in Britain to celebrate Queen Victoria’s birthday and in an effort to promulgate the British Empire the holiday was encouraged in the Commonwealth and in 1909 Empire Day was born in Bermuda, later becoming Commonwealth Day.

This day in 1909 a patriotic children’s parade ran from Somerset to St Georges and over a century later, this morning thousands of people lined the streets to watch a colourful and noisy parade of floats and performers to celebrate what is now Bermuda Day.
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Butlers Wharf

I’m in the City of London not as refreshed as I would like after an overnight flight from Bermuda into Gatwick, but this afternoon I have some meetings before I join up with some friends tonight for drinks and dinner.

I’m staying the night in the Butlers Wharf area on the south side of the river, and walking through here this morning it brought back some nice memories. I actually first worked not far from here but that was before the days of Hays Galleria and Butlers Wharf, but I have always liked this part of town.
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The turnstile operator’s son

I fly back to the UK tomorrow night and will take my place at The Valley on Saturday in the vain hope of having something to cheer about. Hopefully the bit between 3pm and 5 will be as much fun as the before and after.

Before that however I will be at Upton Park on Friday evening with my mates including an ex-turnstile operator that you may have heard off. The reason we’ll be there is to watch Robert Lee’s (he will always be Robert) youngest son Elliot play for the Hammers’ U21 Development team against Manchester United.
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My 12 Days of Christmas

There we have it, the last of my 12 Days of Christmas with us now back where we started at Gatwick Airport ready for our flight back to Bermuda this afternoon, which we will be boarding at around half time of the match at Vicarage Road.
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My 12 days of Christmas

From East Sussex to the The Royal County of Berkshire today to see two really old friends of mine. Really looking forward to seeing them and another change of scene (and bed) before we head back to Bermuda on New Years Day.
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Old friends

I shot into the City last night to catch up with a good mate who has been out of work for a while and who I missed last time I was in town. We put the world to rights, talked plans and resolutions and then as we meandered around some old drinking haunts we picked up some old mates and compatriots from my London working life which I left almost 10 years ago. Hard to believe.

I keep in touch with a lot of old mates, but there is little to beat bar hopping around the City a little unexpected and bumping into old faces.

Two old mates I met are Brighton & Hove Albion season tickets holders and both will be at The Valley for the Back to The Valley celebrations on December 8th. Brighton is a befitting opponent for such a memorable moment in the history of the club, and we talked last night about the two clubs differing paths but also of the association between them. Who else remembers the Football Fans United day in 1997?
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Train spotting

I’m in Chicago the whole of this week and in true Charlton traditions I am attending a Rail Conference, which will include a visit to America’s largest inland intermodal in Joliet, south-west of the city. Oh, I see that you have logged off….

Anyways, I will also have the opportunity to catch up with some old friends and work colleagues, and plan to be as near as I can to updates as the Addicks attempt to redeem themselves at Derby on Tuesday night.
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Fleeting return

My son accompanied by me leave Bermuda for Gatwick later today. It has been a busy and enjoyable two weeks with him staying with us, and it makes me specially happy to see him and our daughter get on so well together.

Hopefully we can get some sleep on the plane, I’m pretty good on my own but not sure my son will co-operate as he insists on watching three films. My Blackberry at least will be pleased of the rest after I have abused it’s sorry arse all week with me feverishly searching for Charlton transfer news.
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Italian wedding

Tomorrow we are back in Chicago for what will be our 3rd wedding of the summer.

To acknowledge this and also to mark two years since I moved my blog over to WordPress, I thought it was high time I wrote my ‘Chicago Page’ over there on the right hand column. Hopefully I can get you to take a look.

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Hearty eating

I hit a few new places out and about in Chicago last week. My favourite was Trenchermen which had only been opened a few days when we got there on Wednesday night. We had just walked out of the haughty Violet Hour, after we had got blind sided by a bum-fluffed assistant manager who roundly accused us of something we didn’t do. He handled the situation incredibly badly, we told him so, and we walked out without even sipping a drink.

Trenchermen mind you gave us a very warm welcome and we recognised one of the bartenders as an old colleague’s brother. That set the scene for some imaginative drinks (I really don’t like gin but the Green Hornet was superb) and even better food (the sea trout was wonderful).

Trenchermen, named for someone that eats heartily and often to excess, occupies a space that was once a Turkish bathhouse. It’s got authentic white glazed brick, similar to tube station tile, and a terra cotta exterior.
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Independence

The beginning of July represents an interlude in work stresses as our business flow is predominately backed into the first half of the year. There are always things to do of course, but the foot is lifted of the accelerator a bit until the last quarter.

I have also taken the opportunity to book a few trips off island this month. Next week I go to Chicago, predominately to do some continued education stuff for work, but also catch up with my mate, who is getting married at the end of the month in the Windy City.
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Heatwave

The weather has been ultra kind to us since we arrived on Wednesday. The beautiful Secret Garden was swathed in sunshine yesterday for my mate’s wedding. A week ago we would have had our coats and wellies on.

The wedding was superb, my speech went down a storm, even if I say so myself, and it was brilliant to see so many of my old mates and my family altogether in one place.
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Wedding bells

No, not mine but me and the family are flying back to London tonight for my mates wedding, the one in which I am one of two best men, the speech is coming along nicely, although I’m finding it hard to keep it below two hours.

The wedding is Friday but before then we are doing a mini tour of Oxfordshire and Essex catching up with friends. This after a late dinner last night with a client and then home to pack in the early hours before getting up silly early this morning to come to work. I can sleep when I’m older.
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Non-stop

A couple of days travelling with work beginning this morning. I’m on a flight to Miami in an hour or so then I go to Atlanta tomorrow and back to the rock on Wednesday on the same flight as a friend of mine who is staying with us Thursday night.

I am then desperate for a quiet weekend because next week we fly back to the UK for my best mate’s wedding. That is in Kent on the Friday but we are in Oxfordshire and Essex prior to that. I have the role of deputy best man for the day, or some such, which unenviably includes giving a speech, which I’ve yet to write. Maybe the next few days stuck on a few planes will give me some time and inspiration.
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From Barça with love

It was 21 hours from the time the alarm went yesterday morning at 4.30am (after getting in bed at 1.30am), until I got home last night. Today I am shall we say, a little bit fuddled.

But it was all worth it to spend a weekend with a great set of lads and the groom, to whom I am deputy best man, a role I have yet to fully understand except I do have the (dis)pleasure of making a speech at the wedding in a months time.

I left Barcelona with a real positive feel about the Catalonian city. I didn’t get to see anywhere as much of the city as I would have liked, stag weekenders strangely are not always about flying around monuments and museums taking photographs, but those of us that did so on Saturday were joyfully rewarded by a city with spectacular architecture and a bewitching personality.
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To Barca

For this Addick, it is not to SE7 on Saturday to party but to Barcelona.

Some while ago my mate, a fellow Addick, was planning his stag weekend. The dates bounced about a bit and every time he proposed a weekend I would take a quick glance, as I am sure he did, at the fixture list.

Blackpool was toyed with to coincide with the Preston game, I seriously proposed a good old knees up in Blackheath for this weekend and varying other European destinations were deliberated. Football was central to the outcome so Lisbon, Belgrade, Rome and even Dortmund were considered.
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Winter Park

Bermuda’s winter is finally looking like it’s arrived. Rain is lashing sideways at the kitchen window as I look outside and the ocean is full of large frothy white capped waves like a sea of cups of cappuccino.

A Bermuda winter normally consists of a lot of driving rain, with intermittent drizzle and dampness accompanied by strong winds during the months of January and February, with March changeable. I can see a number of your hearts bleeding, so I will tell you that despite the rain today the temperature is still to 66°F!

Last week’s work event in Miami Beach – it rained every day like it always does when we are there – was bloody exhausting. Early starts, long days, late nights. I actually love it but I was glad to get home.
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Oh boy!

Up until 2 years ago I used to join a collection of mates from both sides of the Atlantic for Superbowl weekend in a chosen city, but then baby came along and some of the finer things in my life had to be ended or put on hold.

Fortunately the Superbowl weekend was only on a temporary hold and tomorrow morning I fly to Orlando to meet up with some of the lads to play, explore downtown Orlando (I’ve been before and there’s not much to see, unless it is a mouse called Mickey) and then spend the whole of Sunday in a pub somewhere watching men in tight pants run into each other while chasing after an oval ball on a gigantic television screen whilst drinking a few lagers.
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Zooropa

Amongst bundles of discarded wrapping paper, turkey leftovers and bags under the eyes during our trip home I also made my first ever visit to Colchester Zoo, re-discovered some old London stomping grounds and had a couple of cracking pub lunches.

Colchester Zoo was much bigger than I imagined. Our friends had suggested a 4-hour visit and as we drove up there in the drizzly rain I truly wondered what an earth we were going to do for 3 of those hours.

But I should have feared not as we comfortably strolled it’s 60 acres during 3 hours and still left some for another day, although there were a fair amount of exhibits that had migrated for the winter. There are apparently over 260 different species and they are laid out in numerous zones where you can get pretty close to the animals.
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Free-kicks

Funny the difference a year can make. 12 months ago our daughter was barely crawling and would sleep pretty much where we laid her. Now she has a personality as big as Greenland and the cheek to match, doesn’t want to go to sleep and when we finally get her eyes closed and dreaming of Yann Kermorgant free-kicks (well, it’s what I dream of), it is the only time she is not running around like a banshee.

Hence, this year’s Christmas trip home has been far knackering for me and the other half. Now though we get a bit of time to relax in the comfort of our friends sumptuous home near the historical town of Shenfield in Essex (photo).
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Travelogue: Magaluf, Mallorca

A few people asked me why we picked Magaluf as a venue for a boys weekend, the fact is that it picked itself. It was in Magaluf that 25-years ago me and 12 of my closest mates had our first ever foreign holiday. Most of us are still in touch and we were all at secondary school together albeit spread over three different years. In fact one of the lads I went to nursery school with (42 years ago) and he still harangues me about never letting him have a go on the plastic tricycle!

We travelled in style. Six of us in my mate´s London cab to Stansted (where we met the rest of our group), Easy Jet to Palma for around 100 quid, and then our own mini-bus to the 3 star hotel that we´d booked bang in the middle of it all and next door to the monstrous BCM nightclub, which unsurprisingly smelt like a cocktail of puke, Red Bull and bleach. Despite the fact the Island’s largest nightclub was next door, our hotel was pretty quiet save for the obligatory banging on doors in the middle of the night and loud British voices.
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Changing colours

A family orientated week in Chicago accompanied by early nights and late mornings. September is a beautiful time to be in Chicago. Liberated from any humidity, walking the cities convivial streets is an absolute pleasure. The leaves on the trees might be changing colour but the locals are hanging on to every thread of summer despite the pumpkins, witches and skeletons rapidly appearing in readiness for the wintery Halloween celebrations in 6 week time.

Tonight we have our one night out of the week when we have collected together six of our best friends for a dinner at Prasino in Wicker Park, a neighbourhood a short cab ride away.
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The Wedding Party

Saturday we were at a great wedding here in Chicago, and what we’ve talked about a lot since was how after pre-dinner drinks we were led into a huge decked out ballroom expecting to sit and eat but instead were met by a 12 piece band and the beginnings of a massive party as everyone hit the dance floor and dinner was put back an hour or so. Then during each course there was another 20 minutes or so of partying with speeches thrown in intermittently.
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Leaving Las Vegas

Three prophesied days of fun and frolics in Las Vegas then. Eating, drinking, gambling, a Cirque du Soleil show, shopping and I even managed to throw in a work’s conference as well. The next stop is Chicago, a city that I hold very dear in my heart.

I do like Vegas and if you have never been, it really is somewhere that should appear on your bucket list. A few nights is enough though, for me anyway, because sleeping doesn’t appear high up on the list of things to do and my candle is severely charred at both ends!
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Trains, planes and automobiles

Well we made it through. The 25-year Magaluf reunion was a real laugh although it might take my sense of smell a while to lose the constant odour of puke, which Magaluf gratefully bestows!

There were two very late nights, each followed by an unfamiliar early afternoon wake up, sandwiched between two nights of two hours sleep each. Last night my room mate beating me to a deep sleep for the first time this weekend so I had to listen to his cacophonous snoring. Once I piece it all together I’ll write more on our weekend amongst the teenagers and geriatrics that mingle, mostly in a very northern accent, in this little corner of Majorca.

Because I try to make my life as complicated as possible, this trip doesn’t stop there. The Magaluf weekend had been in the diary for long time and so had a friends wedding in Chicago next Saturday. All fine so far. I had even pencilled in a little trip to Milton Keynes tomorrow night after the fixtures came out in the summer.

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Air miles

With the announcement that Air Miles is rebranding to Avios I have decided to beat the record of combining the most flights and beers into a single week.

Overnight tonight I fly to Gatwick, and in the morning after a super strong cup of Costa Coffee I will drive down to my parents in the East Sussex countryside for a little breakfast. Then I get back in the motor and will rush back to Maidstone to have a look around my son’s new school, Oakwood Park, and then take him out to dinner.

Thursday is the lull before the storm, when I plan to catch up with a few people and some zzzz’s.
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British Summer Time

I long gave up taking shorts back home with me on my visits as they never made it out of my case, but on recommendation I threw a pair in this time and they got a good airing with the weather well into the 70’s on the East Sussex coast as I spent a few days, mostly outside, with my son and his grandparents.

The trip was rounded off with a few pints and a curry in Bexley Village with some old mates on Sunday night. We bumped into a certain Jimmy Bullard in the Kings Head who was stood at the bar supping on a pint. The £50k a week Hull City player ended the season on loan at Paul Jewell’s Ipswich where he shined alongside Lee Martin.

Bullard’s family are local and he actually owns the One Bell in Crayford.
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The tale of two hotels

Home after a long weekend in Georgia. The trip was planned to meet up with friends, who are attending a wedding this Saturday. It was great to see them again. We met them whilst he was on a work secondment in Chicago 5 years ago and we have stayed close and have both added a child to the mix.

We did have one night on our own though, so we chose to stay in the very agreeable Buckhead at the St Regis on Friday and were taken aback by how majestic the hotel was. After a Saturday morning sat by the adorable swimming pool which resembled a roman bath, and followed by an afternoon of shopping at Lenox Square, we drove the 40 miles north to Lake Lanier (photo), a vast 38,000 acre lake that is Atlanta’s main source of water.

We arrived at Lake Lanier Islands in the dark so failed to see it’s beauty but sadly what we did get to see was our cockroach infested lake house villa. Our friends, who were on route from the airport had booked it and the plan was that we’d crash with them.
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Mascot memories from Saturday

Saturday’s mascot experience was fantastic, and a real credit to the club. We’ve glossed over the middle 90 minutes in our family but to be fair kids don’t dwell on results, and my son is still buzzing from the day. Hopefully most of those that came on Saturday for the first time or the first time in a while will remember the atmosphere and the experience as a whole and not the result. I know that I pick my games and therefore have to take the rough with the smooth.

Anyway our day started at 12 noon when we met the mascot co-ordinator Sue and we were given our excellent goodie bag. We waited for the other match mascots in a little waiting room by the players entrance and greeted each player as they showed up for ‘work.’ First we were taken to the Director’s Lounge, which had just been overhauled and redecorated by the new owners, with the whole intention to move on from our past achievements and allow the club to embark on a new era, a theme that we heard a lot as we toured the west stand.

Overlooking the car park the Director’s Lounge was unfussy and simple, a bit like like the trophy cabinet, although I will never tire of staring at the sparkly Play-Off and Championship trophies.

Next we were up in the Director’s Box complete with panoramic views of an empty Valley before the gates opened. Then down onto pitchside for some irresistible photo opportunities. The dugouts sadly showed signs of how tight the purse strings were previously. Half the seats were a faded and torn red leather, the other half replaced by the plastic seats one finds in the stands. A chirpy and huge Bob Bolder greeted us, Colin Walsh shook my hand and I’m in two minds whether to wash it this week and then there was Colin Powell patrolling the right wing, like he used to, who at any minute I expected to scream “keep off my grass.”

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Happy New Year

The bloody years disappear fast don’t they? A year ago we could hardly stay awake to welcome in a new decade and in fact we had given up on seeing in the new year until the baby demanded a timely midnight feed.

This year has gone quick though. Our lives were busy before but with a 14-month old and with both of us working, couch potato time is practically zero.

I’m not a big New Year’s Eve fan, and am fortunate that (where allowed) I can go out on the other 364 nights of the year, so I have never fully understood the fuss tonight, nor the pressure or the cost that goes with it. Nonetheless I always find myself in a very reflective mood.
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Sad goodbyes

I was babysitting tonight. A welcome relief after three nights out on the toot. I was asked the other morning by the other half: “At what age do you think getting in at 3am is unacceptable?” I think it was a trick question.

Two nights were work related, that job will be the end of me, and last night was some leaving drinks for my best mate on the island. I was in before midnight so I woke up the other half just to make sure she didn’t make up stories about me this morning.

I have written before about living as an ex-pat, building friendships, investing in people and then, wham, losing them as people’s life’s move on in a different direction to ones own. To quote one of my bestest mates back at home “I have enough friends already, so I don’t need any more,” and I do have some great mates back at home but I don’t see them all the time and we have been lucky to meet some wonderful people in our years in both Chicago and Bermuda.

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Weekend supplement

My weekend back in the UK was a change from the norm in that I had quite a bit of down time, i.e I didn’t have to be here, there and everywhere. I had a great few days and got some quality time with my son and my parents and even (whisper it) got some long craved for sleep!

Saturday my son and I were at The Valley but only for around 110 minutes – we embarrasingly missed the academy parade – because we were in the pub. We started with friends at our regular haunt, The Bugle and then popped into the Royal Oak before we got to the game. Afterwards we went back to the Oak to meet Dave and his lovely wife to discuss the game in more granular detail. Those grains mostly consisting of beer. Then Miso in Bromley solved our Chinese food cravings.

Another real highlight of my weekend was joining the Charlton Live team at their Valley studio on Sunday night to take part in their internet radio show and pick up my ‘Rufus’ prize. Dave, Peter, Deb, Bob and their resident trainee Statto were fantastic company and I thoroughly enjoyed the evening.

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